The principle of kindness – a shift in mindset
We most definitely find what we perform incorrectly or fail to do every day, whether in ourselves or others. If you are like me, I’m exceptionally hard on myself. I lambaste myself. Even though my friends tell me not to be so hard on myself.
And then I learnt something new. It’s so cool to learn new things, yes? Especially when it seems so basic and logical, one asks oneself, “How the hell did I miss that?”
In my old blueprint mindset, the lambasting to myself would take the form of, “How can you be that stupid?” Profanities excluded.
Lashings to the subconscious mind. And all the subconscious mind hears is, “stupid.”
Not conducive to finding and creating new neural pepetides in the brain towards a happy and significant life. And it’s no wonder why I believe that there are only 2 types of people in this world. Stupids and everyone else.
It’s like taking a sledgehammer to new thought.
Instead of finding one’s wrongs in ones day, how about finding what one did correctly? What one achieved. No matter how small or seemingly insignificant.
And celebrating that!
And then you get kindness. Performing kindnesses. Looking for the kindnesses of others. Without getting caught out.
This week of kindness was profound for me. The first part was great. I was tested in the latter part of this week, as I struggled to express kindness. My old blueprint arose.
When I filled out my kindness card, I noticed that I wasn’t being the observer of my kindnesses, even to myself. When I look at my kindness virtue card, I notice that I haven’t reflected that many.
And then I gave it some thought.
I realized that there were many more kindnesses in my day. Whether it was a compliment to a friend in a text message. Accepting new friends on Facebook. Or whether it was a response to a message on Fb messenger. Or providing a lift to someone on behalf of a family member.
And did I celebrate those? Of course not. I was too busy looking for the wrongs.
But now I’m celebrating the rights. I’m grateful I’m not a bibulous dude. Otherwise I would be the local sot.
Eating the right food is permeating a kindness on oneself.
Doing some exercise is a kindness to oneself.
Correcting one’s negative thoughts is a kindness to oneself.
Giving a compliment is a kindness.
Smiling at someone is a kindness.
Helping someone is a kindness.
Small things, sometimes unnoticed. All kindnesses.
And now I am in a perpetual state of awareness.
And of course to double my kindnesses.
That’s the shift in mindset!
In gratitude, respect and love