Self Love

An Allegory about Self Love

We are what we create in our minds.

(From the film – Baby, Baby, Baby – 2017)

Stan was a successful married businessman, who doted on his wife, Genevieve. He had met her in college and they fell in love.

Over time he found that she was paying less attention to him. She seemed distant and withdrawn. It seemed to him that her love for him was fading. He wondered if she was having an affair, or their love had just run its course. He didn’t ask her, in fact they hardly spoke. They would eat dinner together in silence.

Stan became anxious and panicked a lot. He became insecure. And then more and more insecure.

A very strange thing started happening. At first it seemed impossible. And then it was undeniable.

Stan was shrinking.

The more she pulled away, the more insecure he got. The more insecure he got, the more he shrank. And the more he shrank, the more she pulled away.

Eventually he shrank so much, he shrank to the size of a baby and if they went out, he sat in a baby’s carry cot.

One Friday afternoon he came home to find an empty house. She was gone. And there was nothing he could do to change it.

And that was the end of the incredible shrinking Stan.

An allegory is defined as a story, poem or picture that can be interpreted to reveal a hidden meaning, typically a moral one.

This hidden message here is incredibly powerful. I love thought provoking films.

Many relationships fail because of insecurities. Of low self confidences. Or diminishing capacity to communicate respectfully and effectively. Or all of the above.

Most people don’t know effective methods in asking questions in a relationship. Either they are the controlling type, or they are like Stan. or they are too fearful. Very few can communicate that they are feeling unsafe, and find ways together with their partner to redress the challenges to move forward in love, like they once were. Or were they?

Relationships can be the make or break of a persons confidence if they didn’t have a good self worth in the first place.

And this is related to something I help others with all the time. It saved my life.

There are 2 things which hold us back from our greatness in life.

1. We don’t feel that we are good enough.

2. Because we don’t feel good enough, we feel we won’t be loved enough.

And that my friends, says everything about who we are. It all relates to our self esteem. Our self worth.

The process of loving oneself in the mirror is an excellent tool to self confidence and self love. Most people find it the toughest exercise to do.

With continuous repetitive practice, for 90 days, the person in the mirror becomes the love that they are seeking.

I say this every time I see myself in the mirror.

“I … love you Mark Cameron” (expletive deleted)

We are what we create in our minds.

In gratitude, respect and in love,

Thank you

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